Hey, I understand...been there, although not with music. Did everything that everyone else wanted me to do, woke up one day, miserable, hating my life and wondering how it got that way...
Then I had a friend come into my life who brought me much spiritual guidance...and I actually sat and wrote down what my highest and best personal life would be like: who would be in it, what I would do with my life, what I would have (materially) and a timeline to achieve that. And, from that list, I actually starting remaking my life the way I want it to be. Not to hurt or disappoint anyone in my life, but, yeah, I don't think they always care what YOU want so long as you do what THEY want.
Before that, I had to put aside my art for a long time, and was miserable over it. Now, things are changing so much for the better, I LOVE my life and it keeps getting better. I find I can give more to the people around me in every way, because I am the best version of me, now.
Just wanted to give you some courage in that direction, if I can! Never give in, never give up on YOUR dreams